I am a fervent left wing member of the 1%, and I suffer from chronic first world problems. I hope that this contrite blog will allow me to avoid doing time in the third circle of hell.
We had a wee Christmas. There were just three of us and we spent it together in the kitchen making our Christmas meal. It was fantastic.
I made up a menu a few days before, but we deviated from it a bit. We skipped the creamed spinach crostini, and subbed in homemade butter tarts for dessert.
My hubby got the stove end of the kitchen. He made the mushrooms for the turkey wellington, the stuffing and the potatoes.
My son and I got the prep end of the kitchen. We made the pastry, butter tarts, and the ravioli.
Our blended household has a few duplicated gadgets as a result of the family merger. A pasta maker is one of those items. Mine was languishing unused because I thought I had lost the crank, so we pulled my hubby’s unused one out of the box it had not yet left. As soon as my son saw it he declared that he had my pasta machine crank in a box in his closet, he just hadn’t know what it was. I don’t know which we ended up using. One of the boys will get one when they move out; most likely my son since he loves pasta and shows an interest in cooking.
The ravioli were based on a ravioli Jamie Oliver made in one of his Christmas specials. I made the filling the days before. It consisted of roasted squash and ricotta. [Recipe here]
I was sure we had puff pastry in the freezer but we didn’t and nobody wants to run out for last minute food items on Christmas so we used pie pastry. I had to make it for the butter tarts anyway. It worked OK.
The final meal was really tasty. But the true Christmas win was the great time we had spending hours in the kitchen together.
I got a lecture from my doctor a few weeks ago because my vitamin B12 levels have fallen precariously in the past year. I am fairly certain part of that fall has been a recent tendency to neglect my own diet in favour of the family meal.
This is my personal struggle in cooking for my blended family.
I am not, have never been, and am not likely to become a lover of meat. My mother tells me I started rejecting meat around 12 years old. My adult cooking style is meat light (preferably chicken), and egg and dairy full. I love my grains and I love my vegetables, and red meat makes me gag. This is the diet my son has grown up with and prefers.
My husband and step sons are the opposite. They love meat, and would be naturally inclined to skip the veggies. One boy won’t eat eggs at all so I can only have an egg based meal when he’s not home for dinner.
For the past several months, particularly over our very warm summer, I have cooked for the boys and forgotten to compensate for myself. This happened for for numerous reasons – visiting family, vegan dinner guests, and the fact that I find cooking my meat and meat substitutes easier with winter meals.
Vitamin B12 can only be found in animal products. So I need to get back in the habit of preparing something for myself when the boys get their pork or beef.
Below is a meal plan for a week that I think will get me back on track.
Monday:
Meatballs, green salad, mashed potatoes and roasted vegetables (carrots, parsnips and beets).
Add a poached egg for me.
Tuesday:
Roasted parsnip soup.
Grilled chicken sandwiches on flatbread.
Wednesday:
Sundried tomato, chicken and green bean linguine.
Roasted grape and mixed greens salad.
Cheese toast.
Thursday:
Red beans and rice with chorizo, and a green salad.
Poached egg on top for me.
Friday:
Stir fried chicken and vegetables (onion, pepper, celery, carrot, broccoli, pea pods).
Served on fried rice.
Saturday:
Chicken pot pie (whatever veggies are in the fridge – onion, peas, broccoli, carrot, celery…)
There are some days that I just don’t have the physical or mental energy for coming up with a good meal that pleases the whole family.
The trick to dealing with dread of turning on the oven is to use the stove top. The trick to getting around the pressure to appeal to many different tastes is to make a meal that each person customizes for themselves. Paninis are the perfect solution.
Bonus – you get to clear out the fridge!
Bits of cheese,
open packs of lunch meat,
condiments (my goodness, all the condiments),
half a bell pepper and/or half an onion,
yesterday’s fried mushrooms,
half used jars of olives, pickled peppers, artichoke hearts, sundried tomatoes…
…put them on the counter and everyone participates in cleaning out the fridge clutter.
Don’t have a panini press? Me neither. I place a cast iron pan on the sandwiches to get the press effect.
I have used sturdy Italian bread and it works, but recently I have been using a store bought flat bread. It gets a nice crisp on the outside and holds up well to condiment seep so you don’t lose the whole sandwich when you flip it.
Pair the sandwiches with a quick salad, potato chips, fruit slices, or some quickly sautéed vegetables and easy-peasy-eat-a-panini diner.
As long as I’ve had lawns I’ve resented them. I love having a little plot of land, but the modern suburban yard – water hungry, weed prone grass with no privacy and often rendered unusable because of misguided bylaws – is wasted a opportunity that offends my pragmatic tendencies.
Apparently I’ve been ahead of my time. Urban agriculture is now in vogue; front lawn vegetables, urban chickens and beekeeping all are being practiced in my hometown now.
That’s where my blog starts.
Five years ago I moved into a beautiful mature neighbourhood. As I have in past homes, I instantly began planning to make my yard productive.
My hubby started us off by building raised beds for vegetables. This year we have a bumper crop of tomatoes and jalapenos. Lettuce does well, arugula thrives. Peas and beans still fall victim to rabbits and deer that wander out of the ravine.
Our four year old grape vine produced well this year after I gave it a good pruning last fall.
Two years ago we planted an evans cherry, and last year we planted a pear tree. Both flowered but neither fruited well this year. I’m building two bee hotels for the yard so hopefully next year blossoms lead to fruit.
My french tarragon, sage, thyme and oregano all came back this spring, making me very happy.
That’s the part of the plan I can check off. I have plenty more to work on.
This summer I began the next urban agriculture stage – hedge replacement. I love the privacy the hedge gives our yard, but a cotoneaster hedge is a wasted opportunity. I am slowly removing and replacing it with berry bushes.
This little lady is the ‘currant’ resident of my new berry patch.
So far I’ve removed about six metres of hedge, and planted three saskatoons and two gooseberries. I expect in two to three years they’ll give us the same level of privacy as the hedge, with bonus yummy berries.
I’ve earmarked two shrubs to replace with beaked hazelnuts in the spring. Getting hazelnuts will be a long shot given the squirrels activity in our yard, but I’ll try.
We took out two diseased maydays this year. When we get the stumps pulled out I’ll plant an apple tree there. We’re one of the few houses in the neighborhood without an apple tree and I suffer from apple envy.
I know I’ll come up with more ideas for my ever expanding suburban agriculture experiment next year. A proper garden is forever a work in progress.
When I was in my early 20s I worked as a waitress at a small bistro run by a couple from Switzerland. The chef made a salad for the lunch menu that I really loved. Years later I was struggling to think of a tasty, light summer meal and it came back to me. It has turned out to be a family favourite.
I put it in a pita or wrap to make a good hand-held picnic food.
Jurg’s Sweet and Spicy Thai Chicken Caesar Salad
Diced chicken
Soft pitas (or some other flat bread to wrap the salad in)
Chopped romaine lettuce
Parmesan cheese
Thai sauce (I use Asian Family Thai Sweet Chili Sauce)
Caesar salad dressing
Saute the diced chicken in the Thai sauce. Don’t add the sauce at the end or you don’t get caramelization and that boosts the flavour.
Make up a quick Caesar salad.
Place some salad in the flat bread, spoon cooked chicken over it, sprinkle on parmesan flakes.
I’m lucky to live within easy walking distance of an extensive tract of parkland along the winding North Saskatchewan river. This has on occasion caused me to complain about the deer wandering up and helping themselves to my garden veggies. It’s fair play though because I take advantage of the bounty in the deers’ backyard.
Unripe Choke Cherries
For instance, the ravine trail we walk our dog along is lined with saskatoons and choke cherries.
There are also wild carrots, patches of wild asparagus, and stands of beaked hazelnuts. All of these are on a well used track, yet most people pass by without ever noticing this bounty of wild food.
Alberta has many wild plants with edible parts. You just have to know what to look for. The saskatoon enjoys favoured foodie status right now so even those who didn’t grow up here likely recognize it. I did grow up here and know many summer berries well enough to feel absolutely safe eating them, but my knowledge sadly stopped at berries.
A handful of ripe, juicy Saskatoons
Hubby and I picked up an excellentguide to help us identify berries, which are bountiful right now. We’ve been going on weekend foraging expeditions to some land where he where he hunts in the fall.
It’s a densely wooded area so we only saw a few saskatoons in the meadows where it was warm and sunny.
The trail is lined with thick stands of beaked hazel nuts – considerately trimmed to my height by the local moose population. The bracts are still green, but they’ll dry and split open soon.
Beaked Hazel NutWild Raspberries
Raspberries are plentiful. I usually tell people I don’t like raspberry, but truthfully it’s just the domestic sort I don’t like. Wild raspberries are delicious. Less raspberry-like, if that makes any sense (of course it doesn’t). More sweet, less odd tangyness.
Tiny wild strawberries
We also found tiny wild strawberries hidden in the trail edges. These are only about 1 cm across, but are packed with sweetness.
Currants
Thanks to our new guidebook I learned I’ve been mistaken about a wild berry I’ve always eaten. It’s ok though, the berry I mistook it for is also highly edible. I always thought we were munching on gooseberries, but it appears that they’re actually currants. The leaves and the fruit look so much alike and taste similar enough that the distinction doesn’t matter to the forager. It would matter only to the botanist.
Rose hips
There were rose hips everywhere; oblong, round, green, rosy pink. There are at least three varieties of wild rose growing in my province. One, rosaacicularis, is Alberta’s provincial flower.
Huckleberry
I also found plants in the meadow that I didn’t dare try.
I saw what I suspected were blueberries but didn’t want to risk the nearby ant hill to get a closer look. Zooming in on the photo I am now pretty certain they are huckleberries because they lack the powdery whitish skin of blueberries. Both are highly edible. The other berry with this look is the whortleberry, which is also highly edible but the leaves on this shrub didn’t match.
I identified bunchberry and bush cranberry using my photos when I got home. They’re both edible but I’ve never tried them.
We also identified some berries to avoid.
Wild lily of the valley, sarsaparilla, and false solomon’s seal, which are either not palatable or some guides caution against.
Snowberries, honeysuckle, twisted stalk, twin berry, and red bane berry are all toxic.
We want to expand our wild food knowledge beyond berries. This fall we’re planning a fishing trip and I am hoping we can forage some wild greens to add to a camping dinner. I’ll keep you posted.
We are just hitting the time of year that really good produce is arriving at our farmer’s markets. This last Saturday I bought some lovely BC cherries – red and yellow varieties – at the downtown farmer’s market. The weather got quite cool for a few days so I decided to bake with them.
I don’t like really sweet desserts so I tend to make things that rely on fruit for sweetness and other ingredients for flavour. I also really love custard. That made cherry clafoutis an obvious choice. My step sons are with us right now and are pretty reluctant to try new things, so I made a cheese cake as a familiar dessert option for them should they want it.
1) I use Martha Stewart’s clafoutis recipe. It calls for sour cherries but regular cherries work fine.
3C pitted cherries
3 tbsp brandy
1/2C sugar (I use berry sugar because it is finer)
3/4C milk
1/4C cream
3 eggs
1 tsp vanilla
pinch of salt
2/3C flour
Soak the cherries in the brandy.
Butter a pie dish and dust the bottom with sugar. Pre-heat the oven to 350F.
Mix all the other ingredients in a blender. Pour half the batter into the buttered pie dish, place a layer of the brandy soaked cherryed into the mix, then pour the rest of the batter over the cherries.
Bake for 45 minutes to an hour – until the top is puffed, the edges golden brown, and the batter is set. Dust the top with icing sugar and serve.
2) I use the recipe off the Philadelphia Cream cheese package – except I make a better crust. Graham cracker crust is not my thing.
Crust:
1/2C melted butter
1C flour
1/2C oats
1/4C coconut/finely chopped nuts (or both combined)
pinch of salt
Mix all the dry ingredients, pour the melted butter over and mix, Press the mix into the bottom of you baking dish.
Filling:
3, 250Gr packages of cream cheese
3/4C of sugar
3 eggs
Beat the cream cheese and sugar together well, then add eggs one at a time. Pour batter over the crust (I poured half, put in some pitted cherries, then poured the rest over)
Bake at 350 for 30-45 minutes, until edges brown and the cheese mixture is set.
The hush puppies went with a spicy cherry jelly we made a few years ago with prairie hardy Evans Cherries. I made a simple honey yogurt dip to go with the apple fritters.
I made onion rings because the youngest boy requested them. I used tempura batter, which I frankly think is over rated. I’ll try a different batter next time.
I used tempura for the fried fish as well, but again It wasn’t best. My favourite fish batter is the batter my ex-husband’s grandmother, aunts and cousins made. I don’t have that recipe, I make it from memory and given my memory I could be way off. I use beaten egg, flour, salt, pepper and a dash of vinegar and a little baking soda.
I deep fried some tofu and made a sesame dip to go with them.
I made a pakora-like fritter with chickpeas, onion, spinach and curry. I say pakora-like because I don’t have besan on hand and wasn’t keen on going out to find it. I used canned chickpeas cooked a bit to soften, flour, some salt, curry powder, chopped spinach and onion, and an egg. I made a tzatziki dip to go with them.
And finally, in an attempt to preemptively atone for my deep fried sins, I made a veggie tray (a whole platter full not pictured, and not eaten either).
I wouldn’t do this too often, but as an occasional treat I think we can all get away with it.
One of the ways I cope with being the primary cook of a blended family is by planning ahead.
Menu planning has reduced my stress, eased the youngest boy’s food related anxiety, and helps us avoid last minute grocery runs. As an extra bonus, since we added a chalk board after the kitchen renovation the menu board has also become one of my creative outlets.
This was a pretty standard week plan.
Spaghetti carbonara with roasted veggies and salad.
Spaghetti Carbonara
There are many versions of carbonara; this is mine. I make two pans because two of us won’t eat mushrooms.
sliced mushrooms
bacon
2 C cream
1 egg
finely grated parmesan
Fry the bacon and the mushrooms.
In a bowl mix the egg, cream, parmesan.
Turn the bacon and mushrooms down very low, and add in the cooked pasta.
Pour the cream egg mix over the pasta and toss.
Let it thicken slightly while you stir – this happens quickly and ifTacos with rice and corn salad.
you don’t watch the egg sets. Serve immediately.
Tacos
I don’t need to tell you how to make tacos. I do make my own quick refried beans though. I use canned pinto beans, minced onion and garlic, oil, tomato paste and pepper flakes. Cooked together until you can mush the beans.
Stir fry
I cook the chicken and veggies separately so the chicken cooks but I never end up with over cooked vegetables.
Stir fried veggies with chicken and rice.cooked veg.
Sauce:
sesame oil
soy sauce
ginger paste
garlic paste
Stir fry:
sliced chicken
sliced onion, carrot, peppers, and cabbage
small broccoli florets
peanut oil
Veggies: Heat peanut oil in the wok. Throw in the carrots first, toss a minute, throw in the broccoli, cauliflower and onion, Toss, then cover a minute. Add the peppers, pour in the sauce, toss and cover a minute.
Chicken: Heat peanut oil in the fry pan. when the oil is hot add some garlic and ginger paste, stir once and throw the chicken in. Toss until the chicken is cooked.
Meatballs, mashed potatoes, roasted veggies and a salad.
Meatballs and Mashed potatoes
I have one boy off beef, so I make pork meatballs.
Meatballs:
ground pork
1 egg
bread crumbs soaked in milk
salt and pepper to taste
minced onion and garlic
chili flakes
Mix the pork with the onion, garlic, salt and pepper. Add the egg and bread crumbs.
Form little balls, and brown them in a fry pan. Put the browned meatballs in an oven, covered, to finish cooking. You can make a quick gravy by deglazing the pan with a bit of beef stock.
Pasticcio with mixed salad and crusty bread.
Pepperoni Pasticcio
This is how I use up small quantities of pasta and leftover tomato sauce. Pene, rigatoni, fusilli, farfalle – they all work.
chopped pepperoni
chopped onion and pepper
arrabiatta or basil tomato sauce
grated mozzarella
cooked pasta
Saute onion and pepperoni.Pour in the tomato sauce. Add the peppers and cook slightly.
In a large casserole dish toss the cooked pasta the tomato sauce. Stir in the grated mozzerella. Top with more mozza. Pop this in the oven at about 350 until the cheese browns.
Red beans and rice topped with a poached egg.
Red Beans and Rice
This totally a cheat recipe, but it tastes great.
bacon
chopped onion, pepper, carrot and celery
large can of kidney beans
Bullseye blazin chipotle BBQ sauce
Fry the bacon, onion, celery and carrot together. Add the beans and BBQ sauce and peppers. Cook until the peppers are just cooked. Serve over rice. A poached egg on top is a yummy addition.
For many people grilling a steak is the height of culinary mastery. I’m not a fan of beef myself. The way I feel about meat is how others feel about veggies. My theory is this is because so few of us know how to cook with them.
Over my adult years I’ve moved away from the meat-centric diet I grew up with. Meat is still part of my meals but rarely centre stage. I make the protein round it out the meal, rather than scrambling to round out a meat focused dinner with some humdrum greenery. In fact, in some of my favourite meals, meat has disappeared all together.
This is my number one challenge with my step sons. Even my hubby, who has a broader palate, maintains a pretty long list of veggies he doesn’t eat. In both cases it’s because they didn’t grow up with vegetables as integral, flavour contributing parts of the meal. My son, on the other hand, has been raised with vegetables given the care and attention they deserve, and so has a palate inclined toward them.
Cooking for the full family can be a very frustrating, even depressing, endeavor for me. If I cook what my step sons want neither my son or I enjoy it. If I cook the way my son and I prefer the other boys are not happy.
It’s for this reason that I am giddy at the prospect of my son’s new girlfriend coming for a visit. She’s a vegan. I am going to love cooking for her.
Now, I am not a vegan. I like my eggs and my cheese. However, I can cook several very delicious vegan meals.
This is one of my son’s most requested. Easy peasy, tasty pleasing.
Roasted Tomato and Spinach Coucous
Ingredients: One small onion, two celery stalks, one medium carrot, one can of fire roasted tomatoes, one jar of roasted peppers, one clove of garlic, fresh spinach, one litre vegetable stock, olive oil, two cups couscous, salt and pepper to taste.
Dice the onion, celery and carrot.
Saute in olive oil until they are tender.
Deglaze the pan with a bit of stock, then pour it all in.
Add finely minced garlic.
Add chopped roasted peppers and roasted tomatoes.
Bring to a simmer.
Add coucous.
Stir. Add the spinach.
Cover.
Turn off heat and let sit until the coucous is fluffy.
Voilà. A delicious dish fit for a vegan and good enough for the rest of us too.